Everyone has had angry feelings at some time or other. It is a normal reaction when circumstances are not fair or our expectations are not met. Anger over these unmet expectations often lead us to blame others and be aggressive towards them. Anger is an emotional state that can be caused by both internal and external sources. Anger can be elicited by behaviours of self or others or specific events, and combination of internal and external events.

Positive aspects of anger

We need anger for our survival. Anger helps a person to cope with wide variety of situations. When anger is expressed in a constructive, non-hostile manner, it may have positive outcomes, such as expressing important feelings, identifying problems, readdressing concerns, and motivating effective behaviour. Constructive use of anger is associated with lower blood pressure and better health

Anger can be both positive and negative according to its way of expression. The most important thing is to simply learn how to express our anger in appropriate, conscious and supportive ways.

How is anger expressed negatively?

  • Constantly repeating similar actions and words in certain situations
  • Frequent swearing, use of violent language and behaviour
  • Brooding over anger and fantasizing about negative situations
  • Not solving a problem, just getting angry about the situation
  • Having strong prejudice about others because of caste, race, gender, age, etc.
  • Constantly blaming others for fault
  • Getting violent in almost every social interaction

Counselling can help you learn more positive ways of expressing your anger. If you want support dealing with your anger or want more information, please contact us.

The following online resources provide more information and advice: